Be Kind To Yourself + A Self Care Giveaway

Last month I announced that I’ve partnered with the folks from MightyNest, an online store specializing in natural, non-toxic products for the kitchen and home, on a series of giveaways: I am so excited about this partnership!

Valentine’s Day is behind us and I am betting you doled out lots of love to others this month, but have you been showing yourself kindness lately? I wrote about being kind to yourself in my book, and I am going to excerpt that chapter here in this post. You will also find a giveaway for some items that are perfect for the theme of self-care in this post :)

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Many of us are unnecessarily hard on ourselves on a daily basis. We don’t treat ourselves with respect or compassion. I personally have a history of being quite unkind to myself because my “inner voice” used to engage in overwhelmingly negative banter. Do you have an inner voice that’s overly critical, too? If the answer is yes, it can be life changing when you start to train your inner monologue to be kind instead of harsh.

What does it mean to be kind to yourself, exactly? Well for starters, being kind to yourself means not judging yourself harshly for not being perfect. It also means not holding yourself to impossibly high standards. And it means putting an end to comparing yourself to others and to beating yourself up for making a mistake, or for not being good enough at something. Being kind to yourself means being your own cheerleader. When you are consistently kind to yourself, you don’t need others to validate your efforts and boost your self-confidence, because you can do those things for yourself.

Banishing negative self-talk isn’t something that can be accomplished in one day, though; it can take time. Here are some steps to take that have worked for me: Surround yourself with encouraging, supportive friends; recite positive affirmations every day (don’t knock it until you try it!); learn how to be in the moment; make a conscious effort to choose optimism over pessimism; and practice gratitude. Like I said, this all takes time. It is a process. (And setbacks do happen sometimes…believe me, they do.)

Being kind to yourself is not the equivalent of spending each and every day on the couch eating bonbons, though. Quite the contrary: being kind to yourself means respecting your body, so that you take excellent care of yourself. Being kind to yourself means you are more likely to eat healthy food, get enough sleep, exercise regularly, and attend to other aspects of self care. When you are kind to yourself, you’ll feel better mentally and physically. You’ll be more likely to excel at all that you do, and you’ll be better able to take good care of others.

(Text adapted with permission from my book One Simple Change: Surprisingly Easy Ways to Transform Your Life. Copyright 2013; Published by Chronicle Books.).

To inspire my readers to be kind to and take good care of themselves, MightyNest will give one of you a self-care gift package! Included in the package: 1. A chemical-free yoga/pilates mat 2. A porcelain reusable tea/coffee cup 3. Organic “Revitalize” Tea 4. Natural/Organic Calming Body Lotion 5. Plant-based Cell Stimulating Face Mask and 6. Organic Lavender Sugar Scrub. The retail value of this giveaway is $114.94 and it is open to readers in the USA only.

To enter the giveaway, please leave a comment on this post AND follow the directions found in the widget below. Please know that when you use the widget to pledge to be kind to yourself, you’ll automatically be entered to win the giveaway and you’ll be signing up for the MightyNest for Schools Program. When you sign up for this program, 15% of any purchase you make from MightyNest in the future goes back to the school of your choice (it can be your child’s school or simply a school that is in your local area)!

Good luck!

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67 thoughts on “Be Kind To Yourself + A Self Care Giveaway”

  1. Take the time to sing while cooking. Play a game with a child. Take a walk and notice how the ground feels under your feet, and the colours in the trees.

    Self-care is the basis for all of our ability to care for others — if we aren’t nourished, we have nothing to give!

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  2. I am trying to get pregnant for more than a year now and really am not feeling too kind to myself, I am so much of blame to my body, my hormones and things not working out for me when everyone else around seem to be able to do everything. So this is a good reminder that I need to be kind to my body and treat it well.

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  3. I had never heard of Mighty Nest before…. such a perfect partnership with your blog! (Glad to have found your blog, via a ‘pin’ on Pinterest… fascinated by your book – plan on purchasing sooner rather than later.) :)

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  4. Great reminder! Love this whole piece and the little package – that lotion is amazing! I try not to sweat the small stuff, but also focus on the little things. Counter intuitive but important : )

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  5. This is something I really need to get better at doing. I have been getting sick every few weeks this winter because I haven’t been taking good care of myself. It is so upsetting. I am working on changing things now.

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  6. Thank you for the reminder to be kind to ourselves! It is easy to forget about that when we are so busy caring for everyone around us.

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  7. Lovely giveaway! Loved the book and the important “simple changes” contained. This message of self-care is just what I needed to hear today!

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  8. Just the thing I needed to be reminded of today, thank you. Please enter me in the giveaway of these great products. Oh and I just received your book, loving it.

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  9. Great idea for a self care giveaway. We often forget that one of the best way to care for others is to make sure we are caring well for ourselves! That way, we can be in the best health mentally and physically to give to others.

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  10. Make sure to give yourself 5 minutes of kindness every day, or 5 minutes several times a day. It could be as simple as a walk around the block (yep, city kid here) or taking 5 minutes to read a book you enjoy. Have a cup of tea. Or sit in a lovely garden. Just do something that brings you peace for a few minutes, you’ll thank yourself at the end of the day.

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  11. Women need to remind themselves over and over to take care of themselves. They take care of everyone else first and they are forgotten. The ones who count on you will benefit from your taking time for you!

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  12. One of the earliest lessons that I learned when I became a mother (nearly 8 years ago) is that it’s impossible to take care of a child if you aren’t taking proper care of yourself. Happy mommy=happy baby is really the truth, and that extends throughout life. My home and family’s daily rhythm is a reelection of my positive vibe.

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  13. Why is it so hard for us to take some time for ourselves and just relax and maybe even pamper ourselves a little?? After reading this, I vow to take just a little time each day for me! In the long run, it will benefit everyone!

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  14. Thank you for this lovely giveaway!!:) It’s always nice to enter through Mighty Nest giveaways since they’re so generous!!:) Have a great evening!:)<3

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  15. Yes, yes, yes. So hard to remember to be as kind and gentle with ourselves as we are to others. When I stop and listen to the sorts of things I’m saying to myself I’m shocked sometimes- especially when I realize that I would never say such things to someone else.
    Thank you for the reminder to continue to be kind and gentle to ourselves.

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  16. I read this in your book, but I think I need to read it more to let it sink in. (Well, that is true for a lot of what I have read in your book so far!)

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  17. Being kind to myself has always been something I have struggled with. Thanks for reminding us that we can change the negative patterns!

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